Angel
22-09-05, 12:15 PM
LOVE THYSELF
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When I love me, things will change.
I won't be so wrapped up in thinking that I'm not good enough.
I won't try to perfect the way I look for anyone.
I won't need to, for true beauty lies within.
> When I love me, life will be different, I won't care if people hate me, or if they don't like who I'm friends with. I won't let them judge me I'll do my best not to judge others because of my own insecurity.
> When I love me, I'll be able to forget about all the bad things in my life.
I'll see the glass half full, rather than half empty.
I'll make choices to the best of my ability and without someone else's
> i n put. That way, I'll know in my heart it was the right thing to do.
> When I love me, nothing will get me down. I'll be
> able to look in the mirror and smile, because I'll
> happy with what I see. I won't be ashamed of what I look like or what I wear.
I won't have to be someone I'm not just to please my peers.
> When I love me. I'll be abale to be myself.
I'll say what's on my mind and not feel as if I've said the wrong thing.
I'll believe in myself and believe that I can accomplish my goals. I'll tell everyone, "Hey, I did that, and I did it on my own."
> When I love, I'll be able to feel whole. My life will finally come together and I'll be truly happy.
I won't have to regret what I've done in the past or what I'm destined to do in the future. I feel like I'm worth something and that I helped make a difference.
> But most of all, when I love me, I'll be able to pass
> on that love, so other can be happy like me.
Everyone deserves to love themselves. No one should ever feel
> that they aren't loved by themselves; because in
> the end, it won't matter how popular you were, or how
> you dressed or who your friends were. You only need to worry about you and
> if you loved yourself.
Some day, I'll realize that I did..I just didn't know it.
> by Laura Deegan
>
> We must be ready at every moment to give up what we are for what we can become...
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A Place for Me
There is a special place in life,
That needs my humble skill,
A certain job I'm meant to do,
Which no one else can fulfill.
The time will be demanding,
And the pay is not too good
And yet I wouldn't change it
for a moment -- even if I could
There is a special place in life,
A goal I must attain,
A dream that I must follow,
Because I won't be back again.
There is a mark that I must leave,
However small it seems to be,
A legacy of love for those
Who follow after me
There is a special place in life,
That only I may share,
A little path that bears my name,
Awaiting me somewhere.
There is a hand that I must hold,
A word that I must say,
A smile that I must give
For there are tears to blow away.
There is a special place in life
that I was meant to fill.
A sunny spot where flowers grow,
upon a windy hill.
There's always a tomorrow and the
best is yet to be,
And somewhere in this world,
I know there is a place for me.
- author unknown
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Be Good To Yourself Therapy
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Trust yourself. You know what you want and need.
Put yourself first. You can't be anything for anybody else unless you take
care of yourself.
Let your feelings be known. They are important.
Express your opinions. It's good to hear yourself talk.
Value your thinking. You do it well. If you don't value it, no one else
will.
Take the time and space you need.. Even if other people are wanting
something from you.
When you need something, don't talk yourself out of it. Even if you can't
have it, it's OK to need.
When you are scared, let someone know. Isolating yourself when you're scared
makes it worse.
When you feel like running away, let yourself feel the scare. Think about
what you fear will happen and decide what you need to do.
When you're angry, let yourself feel the anger. Decide what you want to do;
just feel it, express it, or take some action.
When you're sad, think about what would be comforting. When you're hurt,
tell the person who hurt you. Keeping it inside makes it grow.
When you have work to do and you don't want to do it, decide what really
needs to be done and what can wait.
When you want something from someone else, ask. You'll be okay if they say
no. Asking is being true to yourself.
When you need help, ask. Trust people to say no if they don't want to give.
When people turn you down, it usually has to do with them, and not with you.
Ask someone else for what you need.
When you feel alone, know there are people who want to be with you.
Fantasize what it would be like to be with each of them. Decide if you want
to make that happen.
When you feel anxious, let yourself know that in your head. You've moved
into the future to something scary your body has gotten up the energy for
it. Come back to the present.
When you want to say something loving to someone, go ahead. Expressing your
feeling is not a commitment.
When someone yells at you, physically support yourself by relaxing into your
chair or putting your feet firmly on the floor. Remember to breathe. Think
about the message they are trying to get across to you.
When you're harassing yourself, stop. You do it when you need something.
Figure out what you need and get it.
When everything seems wrong, you are overwhelmed and need some comforting.
Ask for it. Afterwards, you can think about what you need to do.
When you want to talk to someone new and are scared, breathe. Don't start
rehearsing, just plunge in. If it doesn't go well, you can stop.
If you're doing something you don't like to do, (such as smoking or
overeating), Stop. Think about what you really want. If you're stuck and
can't think clearly, talk out loud to someone.
When you can't think straight, Stop thinking. Feel.
When you're in need of love, reach out. There are people who love you.
When you're confused, it's usually because you think you should do one thing
and you want to do another. Dialogue with yourself or present both sides to
a friend.
When you feel harried, slow down. Deliberately slow your breathing, your
speech, and your movements.
When you have tears, cry. When you feel like crying and it's not a safe
place to cry, acknowledge your pain and promise yourself a good cry later.
Keep your promise.
When everything seems gray, look for color.
If one of these rules seems wrong for you, talk about it with someone. Then,
rewrite it so it fits you.
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When I love me, things will change.
I won't be so wrapped up in thinking that I'm not good enough.
I won't try to perfect the way I look for anyone.
I won't need to, for true beauty lies within.
> When I love me, life will be different, I won't care if people hate me, or if they don't like who I'm friends with. I won't let them judge me I'll do my best not to judge others because of my own insecurity.
> When I love me, I'll be able to forget about all the bad things in my life.
I'll see the glass half full, rather than half empty.
I'll make choices to the best of my ability and without someone else's
> i n put. That way, I'll know in my heart it was the right thing to do.
> When I love me, nothing will get me down. I'll be
> able to look in the mirror and smile, because I'll
> happy with what I see. I won't be ashamed of what I look like or what I wear.
I won't have to be someone I'm not just to please my peers.
> When I love me. I'll be abale to be myself.
I'll say what's on my mind and not feel as if I've said the wrong thing.
I'll believe in myself and believe that I can accomplish my goals. I'll tell everyone, "Hey, I did that, and I did it on my own."
> When I love, I'll be able to feel whole. My life will finally come together and I'll be truly happy.
I won't have to regret what I've done in the past or what I'm destined to do in the future. I feel like I'm worth something and that I helped make a difference.
> But most of all, when I love me, I'll be able to pass
> on that love, so other can be happy like me.
Everyone deserves to love themselves. No one should ever feel
> that they aren't loved by themselves; because in
> the end, it won't matter how popular you were, or how
> you dressed or who your friends were. You only need to worry about you and
> if you loved yourself.
Some day, I'll realize that I did..I just didn't know it.
> by Laura Deegan
>
> We must be ready at every moment to give up what we are for what we can become...
--------------------
A Place for Me
There is a special place in life,
That needs my humble skill,
A certain job I'm meant to do,
Which no one else can fulfill.
The time will be demanding,
And the pay is not too good
And yet I wouldn't change it
for a moment -- even if I could
There is a special place in life,
A goal I must attain,
A dream that I must follow,
Because I won't be back again.
There is a mark that I must leave,
However small it seems to be,
A legacy of love for those
Who follow after me
There is a special place in life,
That only I may share,
A little path that bears my name,
Awaiting me somewhere.
There is a hand that I must hold,
A word that I must say,
A smile that I must give
For there are tears to blow away.
There is a special place in life
that I was meant to fill.
A sunny spot where flowers grow,
upon a windy hill.
There's always a tomorrow and the
best is yet to be,
And somewhere in this world,
I know there is a place for me.
- author unknown
=====================
Be Good To Yourself Therapy
-----------------------------------------
Trust yourself. You know what you want and need.
Put yourself first. You can't be anything for anybody else unless you take
care of yourself.
Let your feelings be known. They are important.
Express your opinions. It's good to hear yourself talk.
Value your thinking. You do it well. If you don't value it, no one else
will.
Take the time and space you need.. Even if other people are wanting
something from you.
When you need something, don't talk yourself out of it. Even if you can't
have it, it's OK to need.
When you are scared, let someone know. Isolating yourself when you're scared
makes it worse.
When you feel like running away, let yourself feel the scare. Think about
what you fear will happen and decide what you need to do.
When you're angry, let yourself feel the anger. Decide what you want to do;
just feel it, express it, or take some action.
When you're sad, think about what would be comforting. When you're hurt,
tell the person who hurt you. Keeping it inside makes it grow.
When you have work to do and you don't want to do it, decide what really
needs to be done and what can wait.
When you want something from someone else, ask. You'll be okay if they say
no. Asking is being true to yourself.
When you need help, ask. Trust people to say no if they don't want to give.
When people turn you down, it usually has to do with them, and not with you.
Ask someone else for what you need.
When you feel alone, know there are people who want to be with you.
Fantasize what it would be like to be with each of them. Decide if you want
to make that happen.
When you feel anxious, let yourself know that in your head. You've moved
into the future to something scary your body has gotten up the energy for
it. Come back to the present.
When you want to say something loving to someone, go ahead. Expressing your
feeling is not a commitment.
When someone yells at you, physically support yourself by relaxing into your
chair or putting your feet firmly on the floor. Remember to breathe. Think
about the message they are trying to get across to you.
When you're harassing yourself, stop. You do it when you need something.
Figure out what you need and get it.
When everything seems wrong, you are overwhelmed and need some comforting.
Ask for it. Afterwards, you can think about what you need to do.
When you want to talk to someone new and are scared, breathe. Don't start
rehearsing, just plunge in. If it doesn't go well, you can stop.
If you're doing something you don't like to do, (such as smoking or
overeating), Stop. Think about what you really want. If you're stuck and
can't think clearly, talk out loud to someone.
When you can't think straight, Stop thinking. Feel.
When you're in need of love, reach out. There are people who love you.
When you're confused, it's usually because you think you should do one thing
and you want to do another. Dialogue with yourself or present both sides to
a friend.
When you feel harried, slow down. Deliberately slow your breathing, your
speech, and your movements.
When you have tears, cry. When you feel like crying and it's not a safe
place to cry, acknowledge your pain and promise yourself a good cry later.
Keep your promise.
When everything seems gray, look for color.
If one of these rules seems wrong for you, talk about it with someone. Then,
rewrite it so it fits you.
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